A Siti Hajar might marry a man who is a leader at the local mosque, only to find that his public piety masks controlling or even abusive behavior in private. Social media campaigns like #UndurDiri (Step Back) and discussions around religious gaslighting have become central topics. The question arises:
This creates a fierce debate: Is she dressing up for her husband or for the public? The phrase "Siti Hajar bertudung tetapi pamer aurat" (Veiled but exposing herself) is a common criticism. However, modern relationship experts argue that this critique is often a control mechanism. By telling a veiled woman she cannot look beautiful even for her spouse's social feed, society attempts to strip her of agency.